Moment Three.

Just recently I began watching ‘reality’ television shows. I had watched the show Jerseylicious, which seems to be more about the lives of the people who work as the hairstylists, than about the actual salon. I had seen a few of the episodes awhile back, but a few days ago they aired a couple of episodes again. Because of this class, I think, it made me pay attention to what the employees were actually saying. In the beginning episodes, three of the hairstylists when out to lunch; two females and a male. The one, Gigi has had a boyfriend for about two years, and just knows he is the one. She has a dream of becoming this great hairstylist and getting married to him. The male, Anthony, who is straight, has been married for four years and has a son. The other, Alexa, says she has trouble in the relationship department.

I thought to myself, well why would she have a problem, she is successful, seems to have a good head on her shoulders, and is a beautiful lady. But a comment she made explained it all. She had mocked the other, Gigi for having a dream of becoming some great hairstylists and getting married. She did not understand how that could be someone’s dream. And how someone can stay married to one person for the rest of one’s life. Alexa had said that people marry for all the wrong reasons, and she brought up the divorce rates in New Jersey. She was so negative. Anthony said something abouthow she has to find the right person. And she counteracted with something along the lines of a person’s skin beginning to sag and letting themselves go, and ultimately that marriage failing because of that. Finding the right person has nothing to do with physical appearance, which I believe was his point. Now, of course marriage is not for everyone, but her comments and pessimism were unnecessary.

I wonder why her relationships do not last or why she has not had one for awhile. Is it because her relationships have failed, and she is jealous of the others who are in long lasting relationships, being the only single one at the table? Is she too headstrong and opinionated, and believes that no one is good enough?